Thursday, December 31, 2009
Yeah, Yeah, Yeah -- "Jingle Bell's" to You Too
--The endless Christmas music. Yes, I'm a grinch, but I hate it. I wish I could go into a store and not hear this stupid music. I have actually left stores because the music is so annoying and makes me feel anxious and stressed.
--Bad punctuation. All right, this always bothers me, but especially now when I have to see "Happy holiday's" and "Christmas special's". It makes me want to rip signs, cards, and menus up!
I think I need to start hibernating during the holiday season.
--Curly
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
Miss Conduct's "Annual Airing of Grievances"
--Prunella
Not Tickling My Fancy/Fanny
This is disgusting and offensive for a number of reasons. First of all, not all women are straight and want to think about a man when someone has his or her hands between their legs. And whether they are straight or not, they may not find Brad Pitt (or George Clooney or Johnny Depp or whoever else) attractive. And why should women have to get such advice anyway? Do men at the proctologist get told that they should think of Julia Roberts or Angelina Jolie? Why can't the doctor/nurse focus on the task at hand (so to speak) and try to make the patient relaxed in some other way?
If someone said this to me, I'd be inclined to close my legs and kick him/her in the face!
--Curly
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Undressed for Success
When will we stop using women’s bodies to sell things? Does seeing a naked woman really make someone more likely to choose a particular brand or product? For me, it does the opposite, and I would like to think that it might have this effect on those of us who are conscious of sexism.
--Curly
Friday, December 11, 2009
Black Eyed Pleas
This peeve is not only related to BEP but to most music videos out there. Why are women scantily clad and portrayed solely as sex objects? Why are they bumping and grinding, usually with their gaze trained on the male singer, who is often unattractive and sloppily dressed but acts like a stud? Even Fergie, who does have a powerful voice, is nearly always wearing a minimum of clothes (okay, okay, I do like that, but I also chastise myself for liking it!) and she is shown in these videos as a sexy woman who is appreciated for her body and her looks, but not for her musical talent.
When will we get to a stage where we can focus on the music and on the story told by music? Why do we need half-dressed women in order to keep our attention?
--Curly
Saturday, December 5, 2009
Have Yourself a Sexist Little Christmas
I got a book catalog in the mail, advertising wonderful holiday presents, conveniently divided into “for him” and “for her” sections. For him, why not buy a book about war, sports, cars, or science? And for her, naturally there are books on cooking and gardening, with one thrown in about animals, since women love cute itty-bitty animals! Women would never want to read about science or, gasp, sports, and why should men learn anything about plants or baking?
How is it that even in this day and age, even presents are still sexist?
--Curly
Sunday, November 29, 2009
Peeved by This Blog
Don't worry -- we'll be back to our regularly scheduled ranting soon!
--Curly
Monday, November 23, 2009
Untitled
Miss to me refers to a little girl, not to a grown woman, and Mrs. is only for a woman who is married and has taken her husband's name. So as an unmarried, grown woman, neither of those names is appropriate. Instead, I would prefer Ms., which is often not recognized as a possibility.
But in fact I happen to be Dr. Now, ordinarily, I wouldn't go around bragging about this, but when people ask me if I am Miss or Mrs., I immediately reply, "Actually, I'm Dr."
Why do people believe that Miss and Mrs. are the only two possible options for women? Why don't they consider that women may have advanced degrees? And what about women who married but haven't changed their last names? Or women who are unmarried and are adults?
How hard is to think of women as something other than girls or wives?
--Dr. Curly
Sunday, November 22, 2009
Prunella's Return, and a New Rant Resource
I must apologize for my long absence. Please be assured that this blog has not been far from my mind. Especially on Sundays.
That's when I read and enjoy the "Complaint Box" in the Sunday "Metropolitan" section of The New York Times. Today I noticed this note alongside the column itself:
"Steamed? Dish out the peeves. Send your essays of up to 500 words to metropolitan(at)nytimes(dot)com."
If only guidelines that don't specify pay rates didn't peeve me so much!
--Prunella Peeve
Sunday, November 15, 2009
All the Single Ladies (and Gents)
Lots of people are single. Many -- perhaps most? -- are happy with this state of affairs (or, rather, this state of lack of affairs). Why should this make paired people uncomfortable?
People should be complete in and of themselves and not only when they are half of a couple. It isn't fair to treat single men and women differently than we would the coupled.
--Curly
Saturday, November 7, 2009
Preaching to the Unconverted, Part 2
--Curly
Monday, November 2, 2009
Preaching to the Unconverted
--Curly
Monday, October 26, 2009
Birthday Blues
--Curly
Monday, October 19, 2009
‘Tisn’t the Season
--Curly
Monday, October 12, 2009
Poor Helpless Women!
--Curly
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
Long Time, No Rant
--Curly
Sunday, September 20, 2009
Lock Block
--Curly
Monday, September 14, 2009
Sans Baby
First of all, it’s none of your damn business. Secondly, you don’t know enough about me or my life to know what will make my life complete.
I’m happy for you if you wanted a child and then had one. But don’t assume that having a child is for everyone.
--Curly
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Wash Hands Before Returning to Life
--Curly
Monday, September 7, 2009
How to Ensure That I Won't Promote Your Site, Book, Business, Etc.
1) The subjects she covers in her books/courses (all of which cost good money--tell me about a giveaway or a scholarship and I'm much more interested) are only tangentially related to the material my readers expect me to cover.
2) The links she provided in her initial e-mail to me did not take me directly to the materials she thought I should promote for her. She referred me instead to bigger, not particularly well-organized Web sites where I could not locate two of the three items she had highlighted.
3) When I responded to her e-mail noting that I do not promote materials I have not yet seen myself (this would be her hint to offer me review copies), and telling her about my difficulty locating items on the Web, she wrote back--no salutation--telling me that there shouldn't be any problem with the links, because they work for her. So I had to compose another message re-explaining that the links worked, but did not take me directly to the materials she wanted me to know about.
I think it's pretty safe to say that I won't be promoting this author or her work anytime soon.
--Prunella Peeve
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
Road Warriors
--Curly
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Speak Differently For Me
--Curly
Saturday, August 22, 2009
The 12 Most Annoying Types of Facebookers
But I am back, and I bring with me this funny (and maybe too true) post about "the 12 most annoying types of Facebookers." I've only been a Facebooker for a relatively short time, but already I've noted many of the types delineated within this article. Which type do you find MOST annoying?
--Prunella
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Negative Negotiation
In my own case, I know I am a bit of a pushover and I am female, so perhaps people want to see how far they can push me. But even so, I don’t know what makes them feel they can even try. If we’ve agreed on a fee, that’s the final fee. Don’t expect a discount, especially after I’ve finished the work.
--Curly
Friday, August 14, 2009
Speaking in Tongues
--Curly
Saturday, August 8, 2009
Late Payments
Prunella knows exactly who I am talking about when I mention a recent situation regarding late payment: I had given a lecture somewhere and they’d know I was coming for months, so you’d think they could have cut a check in advance or at least organized themselves to do so shortly after I’d been there. But, no, I had to keep reminding them to pay me and I finally received a check close to a month later.
I pay my bills on time, but I can’t do so unless my clients pay me on time. So why can’t they show me (and the economy!) some respect and pay their bills in a timely fashion?
--Curly
Sunday, August 2, 2009
One Price Is Nice
I actually feel this way at restaurants too, incidentally. Now they charge extra for bread and tap water and they try to make more money but charging separately for the main dish, potato/pasta/rice/other starch, and vegetables. Just name the price and stop being sneaky.
--Curly
Monday, July 27, 2009
Double Standards
This lightly humorous book offers 50 common double standards, explains them, and gives suggestions for what you can do about them. The double standards include: “he can be a beast, she must be a beauty,” “he’s a Romeo, she’s a stalker,” he’s gonna be a success, she’s gonna be a stay-at-home mom,” “he’s hot and heady, she’s brainy or boobilicious,” “he walks freely, she gets harassed,” “he’s neat, she’s neurotic,” “he’s stoic, she’s frigid,” “he’s himself, she’s Mrs. himself,” “he’s the boss, she’s a bitch,” “he’s childless, she’s selfish,” and many more.
Excellent reading for the peeved among us!
--Curly
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Memories
Personally, I am not sure what good it does to think back to better times. And I get a bit tired of people saying how awful life is nowadays. If it's so awful, why don't we do something about it? All times and places have their problems; it isn't helpful to think that the grass was greener, to use a tired cliché, in a previous era.
--Curly
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
The Royal We
Am I alone in disliking the royal we? What do we think about it?
--Curly
Sunday, July 12, 2009
Don't Be Rude, Attribute!
And yet, I have very often found segments of my newsletter simply cut and pasted and shared with others, WITHOUT ATTRIBUTION, on Listservs/discussion groups to which I belong. With the most recent issue, this has already happened twice (by two individual errant posters). Worse, the moderator does not seem to be posting my polite notes to the group pointing out where the material came from.
I've already written to each of the errant posters. One has already responded and apologized. I should be fair and give the other one much more time to respond before rendering any judgments on that situation.
But really, people, what is so hard about this? DO NOT CUT AND PASTE OTHER PEOPLE'S WORK, ESPECIALLY WITHOUT APPROPRIATE ATTRIBUTION.
It's really very simple. Not to mention ethical. And polite.
--Pru
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
Sugar and Spice and All Things Nice
I'm sure there are parents who raise their daughters differently and perhaps things are changing now, but I nevertheless feel that I have not been served well by this kind of upbringing. I have a lot of trouble saying "no", I don't know what it means to live for myself, and I can't express my own opinions well, especially if I disagree with someone who has a stronger personality (note the anonymity of this blog!).
I hope this generation of girls will grow up to be independent and that they will learn that they only have to please themselves.
--Curly
Thursday, July 2, 2009
"Thanks" for Reading
"Thanks" for shopping here.
Come "back" soon.
"Enjoy" our gym.
Coffee and "tea" available.
Why oh why do people add these unnecessary quote marks?
--Curly
Friday, June 26, 2009
Stinkfoot
At home, I almost never wear shoes. But that's my own private area and I can do what is most comfortable for me. But in public, I keep my shoes on. And I wish others would do the same, so I can avoid breathing in their yucky odors.
--Curly
Friday, June 19, 2009
What the Hell is Wrong with People?
I grew up in the 1980s and faced plenty of anti-Semitism then. In recent years, too, I've had to deal with many ignorant or cruel comments. And I'm not the only one. Clearly, this is still a problem. The Holocaust, in a sense, is not a thing of the past.
I realize I am rambling a bit in this post, but what I want to say is that we must combat anti-Semitism through education and we must also deal with deranged people and not let them continue to threaten people's well-being and peace-of-mind.
--Saddened Curly
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
A Trove of E-mail Peeves
--Prunella Peeve
Saturday, June 13, 2009
Feeling Lucky
--Curly
Sunday, June 7, 2009
The Family That Pees Together...
The only option is the handicapped facility, if indeed one exists. What is a single father or a father (or other male relative/friend) to do if he is out with a little girl who needs help in the bathroom? Why not have family-friendly restrooms, where families can have privacy and space to do what they need to?
-Curly
Monday, June 1, 2009
Baby Craze
Of course raising children is important work. I guess I just feel sort of disappointed that so many talented, educated women who could have a real influence on the world still see their main roles as being in the home. Couldn’t they share the child-rearing with their partners? Couldn’t companies be more child-friendly? Does something really change for women so they want nothing but to be mommies? Why does it seem that even in this day and age we are still living in a man’s world?
--Curly
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Best Before
--Curly
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Just Not That Into It
What is wrong with living together? What is wrong with some people being single? Why are women seen as confused, needy girls who must have men in order to be fulfilled?
--Curly
Thursday, May 14, 2009
The Chicken Trend
--Curly
Friday, May 8, 2009
(De)construction
--Curly
Saturday, May 2, 2009
Here Come the Idiots
--Curly
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Fine, Don't Be My Friend
Today, I saw that my "friend" count on the site had fallen--by one person. It didn't take me long to realize that the one who had "unfriended" me was the same person who'd accepted that honest, well-meaning invitation.
I'm fine with people choosing not to be my friend. I just wish they could be honest from the get-go. Telling me if there's something specific I've done to annoy or antagonize them would also be appreciated. I think it's rude to simply drop people in an obvious, traceable, and yet nondirect way. Like "unfriending" them.
--Prunella
Setting Things Straight
--Curly
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
The Cure
--Curly
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Let There Be Light
--Curly
Thursday, April 9, 2009
iSlap
"Apple should create the iFart. Haha! You press a button and it makes all sorts of farting noises. Wouldn't that be great? Haha!"
He then proceeded to demonstrate the kind of flatulent noises Apple could include. The line at the store moved slowly and I had to stand there listening to him for ten minutes, which made me wish that Apple had a program called iSlap. It could not only make slapping noises but also actually slap annoying people. Haha.
--Curly
Sunday, April 5, 2009
Piqued About Peaked
--Prunella
Friday, April 3, 2009
All About Baby
Ooh, the baby said a word! Look, here's a picture of the baby in the bath! The baby burped! The baby is smiling! The baby is now toilet-trained! And so on.
The thing is, it's fine to want to remember your child's special moments, but is everyone else supposed to be just as interested? I'm really expected to read each post and comment on it? And if I don't, you take offense?
Come on! Just as I don't have the time or the interest to hear about every single thing going on in my friends' lives, I certainly don't have the time or the interest for their children's lives. Sorry, but time is limited.
Not to mention that later on, your child might resent that his/her every move was recorded and published for the world to see.
--Curly
Sunday, March 29, 2009
Annoying and Awkward
It’s annoying when you order one dish at a restaurant and instead are given another one. It’s awkward when you try to make a joke and no one laughs. It’s not annoying or awkward when someone sexually assaults you. It is disgusting. It is upsetting. It is humiliating. It is wrong. It is traumatizing. It is many things. But awkward or annoying are not words I’d use to describe it.
What kind of response is that to give to a friend who has been hurt in this way and who has chosen to share it with you?
--Curly
Monday, March 23, 2009
Help! Anybody? Anybody?
--Curly
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
No Means No
--Curly
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
When Everything Goes Wrong
--Curly
Thursday, March 5, 2009
Information, Please
--Curly
Saturday, February 28, 2009
Atheist Jew
--Curly
Sunday, February 22, 2009
Androphobes
--Curly
Saturday, February 21, 2009
Reading for Ranters: 11,002 Things to be Miserable About
--Prunella
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
One Reason I Left Full-time Teaching
--Prunella
Monday, February 16, 2009
Scarf Face
--Curly
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
What We Talk About When We Talk About Israel
Many people feel able to pronounce on what's going on in Israel without having any real knowledge or information, in a way they wouldn't about, say, a war in an African country or a situation in Asia. What's more, people can't seem to distinguish between Jews and Israelis, making many of their comments blatantly anti-Semitic.
--Curly
Thursday, February 5, 2009
Seasonal Attire
--Curly
Thursday, January 29, 2009
Chicken Ain't Nothing But a Bird
And no, the airline didn't apologize for the mistake, but they reluctantly gave me a new meal.
--Curly
Monday, January 26, 2009
On Writing Contests That Are Truly Popularity Contests
Such contests award prizes on the basis of electronic "votes" from readers. Trouble is, it's pretty easy to envision people with large and devoted families (and/or Facebook followings) "scripting" their own wins, regardless of the quality of their work.
What do you think of such contests?
--Prunella
Saturday, January 24, 2009
Where's the Sweet?
Why oh why do vegetarian meals rarely include dessert and why do they give margarine instead of butter? We may not eat animals, but that doesn't mean we don't enjoy the good things in life!
--Curly
Sunday, January 18, 2009
Pru Lives!
--Prunella Peeve
Get off the Phone!
--Curly
Monday, January 12, 2009
Easy-to-Read
--Curly
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
Curly Curmudgeon is a Scrooge
I like how thoughtful people can be, sending cards out and exchanging gifts during the holidays, but I wonder whether it wouldn’t actually be better to donate the money they would have spent on cards and presents to charity. I feel like a curmudgeon when someone gives me a gift or a card and I have nothing to give them back (except for baked goods, which I tend to produce and share frequently), but I prefer to save up that money and donate it to charity instead. Still, I tend to bow to the demands of polite society.
For example, I sponsor a child in Ethiopia. The amount I spend on that per month definitely exceeds what I spend on gifts, but if I felt less societal pressure to give people cards and gifts, I could donate even more money to charities and help them make a difference in the world. Isn’t that more important?
--Curly